• Sara Gouveia

Emotional Intelligence

On my previous article, I speak about making choices consciously, using your full awareness. Today we are going to dive into more detail about this concept of being aware, the aware of self and the aware of others.


As a child I tried my best to draw other people’s attention. I would behave badly and hyperactive so I could be the center of attention.

We might consider this to be normal for a child. And maybe it is, since children tend to be true to their self and just be, not yet poisoned by adulthood. The difference, is that I am now familiar with the reasons why I behaved like that, and was finally able to overtake it.

It wasn’t until my twenties that I acknowledge my actions and my thoughts. I had a really good teacher and friend to be thankful for. As we very much know, our profession is stressful, and we can easily succumb to various mental illnesses that will thereafter reflect in our bodies. Himself, suffered from depression for a very long time. It took real courage to look into his mind and his life and seek for help.

I am so deeply grateful to his guidance, because his story helped me search for further personal and professional improvement. Something that, until then, I was possibly completely ignorant about. It has helped me to overcome struggles and achieve the goals I’ve been setting for my life until today. And it will carry on in me as second nature.

It all began with a pocket sized book.

Humans are such complex beings, driven by physical and emotional factors. Often, we find ourselves in situations where we feel something is right or wrong in an instant, as it to be true.

This feeling of truth of knowing the right way is based on beliefs that are our trust, faith or confidence in someone or something. These beliefs can be so strong that makes us act quickly in situations, almost like a reflex. However, in those many situations we might not have all the facts about it.

Self-awareness is imperative when wanting to develop leadership skills, enhance your career progression, or focus on your personal development.

Realization of the self and the present moment is the first step in creating what you want and mastering your life.

Understand and Identify Your Beliefs

Our beliefs impact the way we behave and interact with others. In other words, beliefs are responsible for our emotions, and the certainty that something is right or wrong.

In order to build self-awareness, it is important that we look deeply into our values and understand what our beliefs are and how they impact our lives and our relationship with others.

What do you stand for? And how often do you take the time to consider wether how your intent to come across is actually how you come across to others?

Steps in building self-awareness

Habit of Reflection

Habit of reflection

Take the time and space to consider your thoughts and feelings about the world around you. Reflect on where you are right now, your feelings in the situation and what you can do to move forward.

Regulate Your Emotions

Regulate Your Emotions

It is so easy to get trapped in our own emotions. However, we need to be smart in how to work with these emotions, and the emotions of others. The best way to do it is to notice how the process works in other situations where you are being an observer. By being interested in other people’s needs and concerns, you begin to accurately sense and understand their emotions. This will help you understand other people’s perspectives, and build better relationships.

Understand What Triggers You To Stress

Understand What Triggers You To Stress

Changing stress levels requires you to get clear on what generates those stressful feelings. This will bring down your reaction before you interact, and prevents agravating an already tense situation or having you doing something that you will later regret. There are strategies to deal with stressful situations in a different way: to be active and exercise, create supportive connections, take control in making positive changes in your life, journaling, giving back to others, and accept what you can't change.

Seek Feedback From Others

Seek Feedback From Others

Understanding how other people see us help us enhance self-awareness. It is a very narrow perpsective when we stand for only one point of view, our own. This may feel uncomfortable, by asking other people's opinion about our actions. But by doing, so we are focusing on the purpose of future success and achievements. Do it regularly so it becomes second nature. And listen wihtout judgement. The key is to balance, taking on broad challenging feedback but not focusing on feedback that isn’t useful.

Learn How To Adapt

Learn How To Adapt

Change is the only constant in life. Challenges often involve some kind of change.While this may feel upsetting, challenges occur for all of us. If handled well, it can create an opportunity to grow and development, encouranging us to learn new lessons along the way. To accept the situation, is the key to deal with emotional discomfort. Understand what can and can’t be controlled by you. Become adaptable. And build your stamina. The time might be challenging right now, but it may not always be like that. Rather than focusing on how you feel right now, consider what you want to achieve in the future.

Build An Action Plan

Build An Action Plan

Self-awareness takes time to develop. The factor key is to practice, practice and practice. Focus on 2 or 3 strategies at a time. You don’t to feel overwhelmed in trying to do all at once and lose focus and control. Set up goals you want to achieve. Be clear about your objectives and targetize them is the motivation factor that will lead you through the process.Set a time frame to keep you on track. Humans tend to work better when they are under a schedule.

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